The Good: It was school pictures yesterday and Hope held it together.
The Bad: As soon as I took her homework out of the book bag, the Hope I know so well was with me. Arms crossed, face set in a glare, and the traditional "You are being mean to me".
We took GB to her gymnastics class. GB had an outstanding 90 minute class. It was non-stop movement. Hope got no homework done. Afterwards, we met friends at Fri*ndly for dinner.
The Good: The Dad was there so I didn't have to deal with Hope's rage by myself.
The Ugly: Hope refused to eat, screamed, yelled I was hitting her (I wasn't) and that I never let her eat. I eventually figured out she was not going to stop (duh) and went to take Hope to the car. She immediately got physical. The Dad picked her up and carried her out. This particular Fri*ndly's is in a large mall. As the Dad carried her out, the manager of the restaurant stopped me to see if a coloring book or a balloon would help. By the time I got away from him, The Dad was 40 feet ahead of me. Hope was trying to bite and punch him, all the while yelling that he was hurting her. They received a mixed response; some people said it was good to see a parent that could do the tough things; other people said that poor child. We made it to the car without the police being called on us. I stayed in the car with a kicking, screaming Hope, while the Dad went back to the restaurant. I played 8 games of Word Warp on the ipad while Hope screamed. When the Dad was finished and brought GB back to the car, he was still shaken.
This morning it is like nothing happened. Hope is at her dancing lessons and I think the Dad is going to take her to a birthday party this afternoon. I, personally, don't plan on ever bringing her out in public again. The Papoose board is too heavy to carry around.
5 comments:
I'm so sorry, my friend. When it's ugly, it's really ugly, isn't it. (((((hugs))))) for a wonderful Daddy and Mommmy. Praying for you.
I love the way The Dad doesn't hold a grudge and moves on the next day. That's something that is hard for a lot of people. I also love how you could tune into your word game instead of engaging in the screaming fit. Bless you my dear...bless you.
I hate those ugly moments. Ugg! The people who try to help with a balloon or lollipop, drive me crazy! I hope you day is peaceful.
Blessings,
Dawn
wow. sorry.
what can I say, except having experienced that, you are not alone.
I tell Missy the reason I can't take you very many places is because you might scream. It is getting better for her and we are going more places.
I pray Hope is healing.
I just want to let you know that you are doing a great job! I have been following your blog for a while now (I found you through another trauma momma (who I know in the real world) and I have enjoyed getting to see how you deal with the good the bad and the ugly. Because that is something that we have daily around here some days! And as far as never going out in public again - the thought has crossed my mind many a day! Hang in there the Good will come around again!
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