Wednesday, March 16, 2011

I Am Back!

Did you miss me? I have been gone because of surgery and complications. I wrote about it on my other blog.

There was only two days between Orlando and my surgery, so I am not sure how much of the girls difficulties are related to each event. The Dad was on overload and that probably contributed to the girls falling apart too. Both girls see the new shrink today and I am hoping a medication change helps GB.

The Dad and I aren't reading the same book right now, much less on the same page. How do I know? When I try to talk about the girls, the stock response has been "Of course you feel that way" no matter what the topic is. GB is currently adamant that she DOES NOT want a sister and is very articulate in express it. She also is very clear that Hope lies to get her in trouble and feels nobody is listening to her. I have a call in to her therapist in school. Hope is crying over everything. The Dad is soft and quiet with Hope and jumps all over GB. I find myself trying to be a barrier between GB and the stress she is feeling. Not a good situation. I have been waiting for the Dad to be in a less overwhelmed space. I am not sure how long I'll have to wait.

Orlando gave me some of my perspective back and at least I do not have to fight my own anger. Either we will come to a place where we can talk about things again or not. If we don't, as soon as I am released from restrictions on what I can do physically, he will go back to being consumed by his job and I will go back to parenting solo. Either way, the situation will get resolved.

4 comments:

Sarah said...

Oh my gosh. I can barely handle one traumatized child. Two traumatized children + surgery + a spouse reading a different book? Sending you virtual hugs and chocolate!

Momma Too Many said...

I've missed you!!! So glad you are healing and well enough to blog a little! I hope the hubby at least opens the same book as you sometime soon, you deserve the support!

Integrity Singer said...

glad to hear you are better (still can't ever find that link to your other blog. i'm such a ninny)

i'm so lucky to have a hubby that's on my page and has my back. I wish every mom was as lucky.

Wendy said...

Found you thru my cousin who was one of the Orlando RAD moms... your daughters are beautiful and so are you! Sending you healing, strength & love